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Suicide.  It Affects Us All.

"Start the Conversation Today - 
       Me tiimata te koorero i teenei raa"

Here you will find conversation starters you can use if you're concerned someone you know may be thinking of suicide.  The 'Start the Conversation' adverts (click the image to view in YouTube)  are aimed at encouraging people to talk about suicide safely and to communicate their feelings with loved ones.

Behind the five 'Start the Conversation' adverts is New Zealand's first Suicide Prevention Line 0508 TAUTOKO (0508 82 88 65).

0508 TAUTOKO provides support, information and resources to people at risk of suicide, family / whanau, friends affected by suicide and people supporting someone with suicidal thoughts and/or suicidal behaviours.


How to Start the Conversation:
If you're concerned about someone and concerned they might be thinking about suicide, Check In with them.  Often people thinking of suicide give out lots of signals that they are not okay.   One of the best things we can do is ask how they are and be prepared to listen.

Here are some ways you can ask:

Q) Mate, I get the feeling something's on your mind. Are you OK?

Q) You don't really seem like your old self and I'm concerned. What's going on with you?

Q) I'm really concerned about you. Can you tell me what's going on for you?

Q) I want you to know you're not alone. I'm here for you. Can you talk about what's going on for you?

Get them talking, connect with them, listen to them. If you have concerns that they may be thinking of suicide then ask them directly.

Q) Mate, sometimes when people go through tough times they can think about ending their lives. Is this how you're feeling? Are you thinking about suicide?

When someone tells you they feel suicidal, or feel like "ending it all", listen without judgement. Often having someone to talk to can help keep someone safe.

If someone tells you they have attempted suicide in the past and/or they have been in contact with a mental health professional then their risk of suicide is increased.

Please seek help from a professional in your area


When someone tells you they feel suicidal, or feel like "ending it all" - TAKE THEM SERIOUSLY.   Every attempt to reach out for help is an opportunity to help keep someone safe.



When someone tells you they feel suicidal, or feel like ending it all - DO THEY HAVE A PLAN?   If someone has a plan then you may need some help to keep them safe.  Connecting in with a professional or someone who knows suicide first aid is the best thing to do

When someone tells you they feel suicidal, or feel like 'ending it all", and/or they have a plan, connect in with professionals.   Unless you are trained in suicide first aid it is best to connect in with someone with the tools to help keep them safe.

If you believe you, or someone you know, may be in immediate danger, please call 111.