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Saturday 11 April 2015

Scenes from a wedding

Posted in: Weddings & Civil Unions
By Jay Bennie - 13th September 2013

Amidst all the big white frocks and horse-drawn carriages and the breathless live reporting from sponsoring radio stations and celebrity-endorsed mile-high marriages which caught the headlines on August 19 it would have been easy to miss two lesbians who slipped in to the Auckland Registry office to become one of the first couples in the country to receive their marriage license.

Symbolically wrapped in the NZ flag before the ceremony starts (more pics below!)
Wearing matching rainbow "I do" t-shirts Whitney Keller and Mara Milano, who were already united in a Civil Union, that day set themselves on the path to their wedding which took place yesterday.

Eschewing all the traditional big wedding trimmings the pair gathered in the downtown Auckland registry office with four close friends, two of whom would be their official witnesses.

On the dot of 3pm marriage registrar Jessica Woodcock appeared, friendly, chatty, beautifully groomed and elegantly dressed with the paperwork in hand. This would be the sixth same-sex marriage ceremony she had conducted since becoming a registrar two weeks ago.

The wedding party were ushered into the corner room reserved for marriage ceremonies. Left to settle in for a few minutes there were jokes and laughter and supportive comments and the easy banter of friends amongst friends.

But the moment Woodcock returned an air of quiet and seriousness filled the room, something the registrar smilingly commented on to again break the ice. After arranging the couple in the best place for photos Woodcock started the official proceedings and within a few moments Whitney Keller and Mara Milano were making their vows to each other.Then, quite suddenly it seemed, cameras and cellphones clicked away as the registrar formally proclaimed the couple to be "wives."

There were cheers and laughs and a few hand-claps and congratulations and "kiss again so we can get more photos!" Hugs acknowledged that Keller and Milano were now married women. Then more formality with the signing of the marriage certificates, firstly by the newly-weds then by their witnesses.

Then more laughs and hugs and photos and best wishes from Woodcock and it was over. It had been a relaxed but serious moment in the couple's lives, when each achieved her dream of being married to the woman she loves... just like so many other couples down the centuries.

There was a sense of completeness, of a goal achieved at last. But there was also a tinge of wistfulness. While the newly-weds are now accorded all the legal and personal respect and courtesies enjoyed by any any and all married couples in New Zealand, in Australia, where they base their lives, it still means nothing. But maybe that will change, and hopefully sooner rather than later. Mara and Whitney clearly long for that day.

The ceremony begins

The vows

The two wives kiss

The paperwork

A moment of quiet formality

Signed, witnessed and official.

The registrar fills in as group photographer

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Jay Bennie - 13th September 2013