So I see the idea of “Negotiated Safety” (NS) has been re-appearing, both here on the message boards and in the rag. Actually, that’s unfair, Mark Farnworth in express actually wrote a fairly good, if historically uninformed piece on the topic. And at first glance it is easy to see why people go “Why doesn’t […]

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I like bars. But, you see, I do like a drink and chat. And even with their drawbacks, bars are one of our main social spaces as homos. There are guys I know from bars and only from bars. We never or very rarely socialise outside them. Yet we know each other, or we know about each other.

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I don’t think about why I am  gay so much these days, unless I have to. When I was an angst-ridden teenager, it occupied my mind considerably.
Why was it that I had no sexual  interest in girls, like the other boys did, I wondered? Why did I enjoy showers so much, all of us standing […]

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