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Entries Tagged as 'General'

26th September 2008

Advice to a Young Gay Man

Posted by: Michael Stevens

There used to be a fashion in the 17th century to write manuals of advice for young men. Often they were framed as letters from a father to his son. I was wondering what sort of advice I’d give today to a young man coming out into the glamorous glittering world of gay Auckland.
Because, of […]

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11th September 2008

Shake hands? Or go on a date?

Posted by: Michael Stevens

There’s a joke that for gay men, having sex is like shaking hands. It’s just what we do, you know, it’s how we  say hi to a stranger. And there’s an element of truth to it, after all,  as gay men we are defined to some extent by what we do with each other with […]

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28th August 2008

Sticky Keyboards

Posted by: Michael Stevens

You are of course reading this online. Which is where I, and many of us, spend an increasing amount of our time now. In fact, I spend way too much time here. Apart from reading my favourite blogs, overseas newspapers, local ones, & checking youtube, there’s Facebook to update and play on, (stop buying […]

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14th August 2008

Hi, My Name’s Michael & I’m A Diseased Pariah

Posted by: Michael Stevens

Well, it happened again. Met a guy online, chatted a bit, figured out that the filthy, perverted, friendly things we enjoyed would complement each other’s need for perversion and filth nicely. Agreed to safe sex, naturally. Met up in a neutral space so we could each back out with dignity if the reality didn’t quite match up to what life online […]

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30th July 2008

Hold Your Nose and Vote

Posted by: Michael Stevens

They’re having an election this year, in case you hadn’t noticed. God what a dismal set of options we have before us. As a gay man, there seems to be an expectation that my vote will automatically go to Labour. Indeed, I’ve even been told that I have a duty to vote Labour because they’ve […]

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16th July 2008

Conoisseurship: The Fruit of Experience

Posted by: Michael Stevens

I was talking a bit about types of men we find sexy with a friend the other day. I don’t know if I have one anymore.  
When I was younger I used to have a type, or types, of men that I found attractive. I am old enough to remember being young with men who had […]

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27th June 2008

Memory, Loss, and Memory

Posted by: Michael Stevens

The tragic death of Dr Matt Wildbore last week as well as the imminent publication of Dr Chris Brickell’s new book “Mates and Lovers” made me think of a few things.
One thought that I keep returning to is the way our history, individual and collective, is so fragile.
For many younger men in Auckland, Matt Wildbore […]

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8th June 2008

How Strange Life Gets

Posted by: Michael Stevens

A good friend, who at 44 is a couple of years younger than me, had a heart attack the other week (henceforth known as HAM -Heart Attack Man). Given that he smokes like a chimney, and in his drinking makes me look (at times) like a Salvation Army officer, perhaps it’s not surprising. Worrying, as […]

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12th May 2008

Question for you

Posted by: Michael Stevens

Here’s a question for you: Do all immigrants to New Zealand, or any country, share the same issues? I mean, do a multi-millionaire French immigrant and his American wife settling in Marlborough and running a vineyard have that much in common with an IT peon from Shanghai in Wellington? How much does either one share […]

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1st May 2008

The Sexual Revolution & My Part In It

Posted by: Michael Stevens

When I started fucking around in my teens, it was all about fun. Sex and fun. Fun and sex. I remember when I was about 18 (1979) , being told by a guy at a Gay Liberation at Auckland Uni that as no one could pregnant or hurt, I should go out and […]

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